How to Get Ex Back

So you have managed to take control of your actions and are willing to invest time and effort to get back with your Ex?

This article will show the exact steps you need to follow to make sure you can be with your Ex partner easily and without going through pain. Let us look back for a minute and see where we stopped.

People always tend to like things they cannot get easily.

This is not true just for expensive electronics or cars but also very true in a relationship.

Think back in your school days, did you want to be friends with that cool kid? Or the “Jerry” who was always hanging around the corner? Nine of out Ten, you would have preferred to be with the “Cool Kid” because it was too easy to be friends with Jerry and very difficult to befriend the “Cool Kid”.

Now, think back about your relationship, did you really value your partner when you were ‘in’ the relationship?

Typically, if you have been with your partner for a while, you took him/ her for granted, which may have been one of the reasons for the breakup. Coming back to my point, if you put your own availability very low, your Ex will not be attracted to you since you are an easy catch.

Conversely, if you show that you are not easy to get and you are a good catch, your value goes up automatically. This will make it easy for you to get back with your Ex… So lesson of the day, stop being so needy or at least stop showing how needy you are.

To continue on the same lines, drive up your value by showing how you are a good catch. Show how you actually are a person and have your own unique values and importance in life. Most couples fail to keep the magic in their relationship due to familiarity, I am sure you have heard this before,

“Familiarity breeds Contempt”

This could have been one of the reasons for the break up.

So show that you have a unique value and are perfectly capable of living without your partner. People desire what they cannot have, so you have to be the person they cannot have, at least for the time being.

After you have successfully completed the first two tasks and only after you have done them, proceed to the next step of initiating contact. Now once again we will use a simple but powerful technique to get their attention.

Write a Note to your Ex Partner. This method is most effective when you write the letter in your own hand. A Computer Printout or a Text Message or even the most expensive and funny greeting card will not be as powerful as a letter written your own handwriting, no matter how bad your handwriting is.

My handwriting is so bad that even I cannot read it; do I still have to write the note in my own handwriting?

Yes.

I know there are some people (like me) with really bad handwriting. If that is you, take your time to make it as readable as possible and the answer to your question is yes. You still have to write it in our own handwriting.

If you are still wondering why I am insisting so much on a hand written note, just think of the number of emails you get in a day? And the number of text messages you get in an hour? Can you remember what they said?

In contrast how many handwritten notes have you received in last one year? Do you remember who sent it and what it said?

If you are like most people, you would probably remember every one of the hand written notes, who sent it and what it said. That is because a hand written note is unique and it goes to show the extra work the person has put in to write it.

Many grown men and women freeze at the thought of writing a letter. Some people would have not written a not for years and if you are like me scared to death when you think of what to write in the note. I feel you. So I have asked my friend T Dub, to make a video for you.

You can Watch that Video at the top of this page.

Alternately click on the Show Me How Button to watch the video on TDub’s website.

Watch the video and then head over to his site and get hold of a copy of Magic of Making up, the best guide that will give you all the super ninja techniques and bonuses to get back with your Ex.

Looking forward to heaing good news from you

Hari